Signs that Someone is Trying to Character Assassinate you

Do you feel like someone is trying to sabotage you?

Personal sabotage and Character assassination are basically synonymous. According to Google, Character assassination is the malicious and unjustified harming of a person's good reputation. It is when a person or people try destroy your credibility by making others view you negatively and dislike/hate you. This is a procedure that is not overnight but a gradual process that the target only begins to realize when there are symptoms. This article will help you see the build-up, symptoms and let you know if you are dealing with a PCA (Potential Character Assassin).

Build-Up

Every process has a build up, a middle and the end result. In this case, the end result is usually the target being character assassinated or the target escaping and the whole thing back-firing at the PCA. Let's look at some build up signs:

They start getting annoyed when you talk to people close to them

Many people have a certain possessiveness towards people they care about, it's not healthy but it is common so be sure you not to use this point as your only guide. Wanna-be character assassins get paranoid about you getting close to them even if they do not show it. They might start thinking that you are on to them and are trying to character assassinate them instead. They may even get paranoid because those they are close to are likely to know the true intentions and feelings that the PCA (Potential Character Assassin) has towards you and so being around people close to them, you make them feel like somehow it will give them away and ruin their whole plan.

They start getting annoyed when you mention people close to you

People who want to cast doubt about you hate hearing about people close to you because it reminds them that there are people who actually like and care about you and that annoys them. Again, be careful to note the difference between a possessive or insecure person who only acts this way because they want to be your 'one and only' and the drop in the desert person. But if someone is constantly getting annoyed, Beware.

Are agitated when you talk about yourself

They just cannot handle you. So YOU talking about YOU is something they resent with a passion.This can happen in other cases when people are having a bad day or people who are trying to tell you  something important  but you instead keep talking in about yourself. However, if it is something that happens all the time, Beware. If talking about yourself is an instant conversation kill, then you better start being very cautious about that person.

Try to "Caution" you about your dreams

They do not want you to be happy let alone follow your dreams.  A PCA will often to talk you out of your dreams in while pretending that it is because they actually care about you. Note that some people, against their own knowledge, do 'caution' you about your dreams out of genuine concern but people who are in your life should be supportive either way or at least step aside and give you the benefit of the doubt.


Talk Negatively about others (especially people you have in Mutual)
 
PCAs will start talking negatively about others so that you fall into the same habit and start making comments against people you know while they jot those comments down to use on you. They often target people you both know mutually because they also have access to those people, which will increase their chances of influence. Whether a person is a PCA or not, do not invite people who talk negatively about others into your life or entertain negative talk yourself.

They are Nosy

Yes, PCAs are very nosy. They constantly want to know what is going on in your life so they can accumulate information to try bring you down later on. They act very concerned and often make themselves a person who seems trust-worthy. They might even give the illusion that they are the only ones you can trust so that they know everything before anyone else, which makes them feel like they have an advantage.

They parade your relationship

PCA want others to think that you guys are very close so that when they start spreading lies people will believe them because they are 'close' to you. They often get over-enthusiastic about you around others and you unknowingly play along and perpetuate this illusion of closeness. They know that they are just doing it for their ultimate goal of trying to bring you down.
 
 

Symptoms

Hostile Energy 

Energy never lies. I'm sure you can agree with that because we often say, "I just had a Feeling" Well DON'T ignore that feeling and that energy!! All of a sudden, after many conversations, secrets, gossip sessions, public parading, even tears, they are suddenly hostile. This shows that they feel they have enough now to try attack. You can call it 'Bad Vibes" because that is what it feels like. They don't have to pretend anymore so they don't care, they think they have a hold of you and they want you, and only you to know it. Some of the many forms it may come as is the form of changed behavior, purposely excluding you and ignoring you.

They try to belittle you 

Your too Big for them and they want you to feel small. Now they want you to doubt yourself to hurt your self-image hoping that it will make you less self-assured and thus not behave like your 'normal self' which will help them when they try to make others doubt you. They are also fed up with your accomplishments, relationships etc whatever it is that triggered them to envy you enough to try to character assassinate you. They will do this in many psychological and subtle ways and here are some examples:

--Some people say these things with genuine playfulness but retorting," What are you doing?" , "Being you is something else" or other comments of that nature in a playful but serious way is a tactic some use so you do not detect them and thus unknowingly accept their words. Soon, you will subconsciously  ask yourself," what am I doing? why am i so awkward?" when you are actually not.

-Constantly mocking you jokingly or seriously. (sometimes they do this to agitate you so they can play victim, making you look like the villain when you 'overreact') 

-Constantly doing things for you in a way that suggest that you are helpless, needy and cannot do things on your own. 

Acting suspicions

They start behaving suspiciously, nothing is straight forward anymore. This is because they are covering their tracks and being very cautious about how to use their lies and information to attack you. Answers are not straight and they keep whispering or having on-the-low conversations. This can be because they are talking about you or trying to make you paranoid.

Get very moody

As I said, they don't like you and at this point they feel like they do not want to pretend. They will let you have it with their moods. One day they are inclusive and chirpy and the next they are keeping quite when you walk into the room. One day they like you and the next they are ignoring you. This is because they feel the show they were putting on is no longer necessary. They also do this to mess with you psychologically and  this can be very hurtful.

Start talking to people close to you exclusively

Now the PCA wants to spread their webs of lies. They start getting close to people for the purpose of isolating you and talking to people exclusively so that they can talk about you. They know that if they were to talk in a group of people, someone would stand up for you, but talking exclusively allows them to feel they have more control over the response.

Give you dirty eyes

They say that 'the eyes are a window to a persons soul' and this is so true. A PCA cannot look at you without giving away the bad feelings they have towards you. It may look like a shadow in their gaze or a straight forward nasty look they can't hide or want you to see. Some prefer not to look at you but you see the evil in their eyes even as they avoid eye contact.

Say things indirectly

PCA will start trying to expel some of their dislike and try intimidate you by making comments indirectly. It may be a simple sigh followed by," some people just irritate me"  while looking at you and if someone asks who, they will make up some other irrelevant story they think sounds legit. They do this to intimidate you and let you know the depth of their dislike. They want to provoke a reaction in you or make you feel uncomfortable around you so that people will detect your discomfort and the PCA will have a chance to make a lie about you e.g. He/She is jealous of me 

Act like the victim

They have to act like the victim so people will not suspect them of being the person in the wrong and also to be 'heard'.They put on fake facial expressions that look genuine to the unknowing eye and talk as if there is something wrong you are doing to them. PCA do this in hopes of gaining ever bodies sympathy and trust.

Try make you feel uncomfortable

From acting very silent when you do things to over-reacting to your every action, everything to taint your actions. They try create a negative atmosphere around everything you do so that you feel self-conscious and uncomfortable. If in public, they act awkward as if you are the cause or they stop talking when you walk in as if you are... [Fill the gap:untrustworthy/jealous/awkward]

Treat you different when no one is watching

PCA will act rude, mean, hostile etc when no one is watching so that you feel trapped in the "How do I let everyone know how they actually are" bitter realm. They are at ease with pretending so it is easy for them to smile with you in public, while you frown knowing the truth. (This will likely make people distrust you instead of the PCA, because You seem to have a problem with them, instead of the other way around.)


So does anyone fit this criteria? if so, it is best to distance yourself from this person or people. Study their behavior so that you will always have a way of killing the little grounds they feel they have of you. Pray because God avenges
 " So do not be afraid of them, for there is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known" Matthew 10:26

 
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