5 Things You Should never Do When Arguing With Your Partner

Couples argue from time to time. It is important however, to make sure you do not let an argument cause long term conflict, damage and break-ups. There are certain things that a person who values their relationship will not do during an argument with their significant other. These 5 things to NEVER do when arguing can save a lot of hurt, as well as your relationship.

 

Yell and Scream

No matter how heated the argument might get, Yelling and screaming takes it to a level of almost no return. It makes resolution nearly impossibly because by yelling, you put your emotions above the matter at hand, making it impossible to find an agreement let alone listen to each other. Yelling can lead to other consequences like slamming doors, walking out or other impulsive behavior, which does not help the situation.

Swear and Insult

Even if your foul mouth could make a sailor blush, keep the swearing and insults out of the argument. Despite foul language being a trend in some parts, the words still have deep potential to scar and damage a bond. Swearing or insulting your partner while arguing will not only hurt them, but it may cause another argument. The damage of words is not easy to fix. One wrong word in an argument has the potential to cause a long-term grudge that will do much harm to the relationship.

Cut Each other Off Mid sentence

Anyone who has had someone cut them off mid-sentence knows how irritating it is. Doing this only increases irritation which can encourage a yelling fight. This happens when you are so caught in trying to be heard that you forget that your partner wants the same thing. After a long enough period, it's okay to take the mic by force because you've actually listened, after which, you can say your side of the mater and both of you can meet a resolution.

Bring up Irrelevant things form the past

A disagreement over something is what causes an argument right? So you argue to reach a decision. Bringing up irrelevant things form the past only distracts and diverts the matter into something else and soon you find each other fighting about something else without solving the disagreement. Don't bring up irrelevant things from the past when you argue.

Not only is it a turn off for you partner, who feels like you won't let the past go because of your constant reminder of the past, it is a parasite to your bond. Bringing up similar events, however, is not a crime so long as it is related and you keep the matter at hand as the subject.

Get Physical

This goes without saying. It is domestic violence which is an offense, and which you can and should go to jail for. Throwing punches or slaps will not solve a conflict, it will actually make it irreversibly worse. If you love you partner, don't hurt them.

Walk Out

This rule has conditions. If the other person violates these NO-GO rules and you feel you have to draw yourself away before you elevate to that toxic level, walking away might be a solution. In other cases though, walking away is not a solution. It is a very unhealthy tactic to avoid conflict that must be dealt with. All you do is postpone the matter, because walking away does not erase the problem you are arguing about. Walking away may also make your partner feel that you do not respect their emotions and what bothers them. Needless to say, that can become a crack in the relationship.

Last Notes

Arguments don't have to cast shadows over you relationship, neither do they need to be the end of your relationship. Understanding that arguing from time to time is normal for any relationship makes it easier to cope with when it does happen. Follow this No-Go rules and arguments won't be a threat to our relationship.


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