10 Signs Your Frienship will Last

Life teaches us that not all friends are true and not all friends last. I wrote about this in a previous post Signs your Friendship is Fading. But in the midst of this, there are friends that remain and friends that arise with the potential to put the ‘forever’ in BFF. Here are some signs to look out for if you want to know if your friendship is one that is likely to stand the test of time. 

Feel free around each other

Your lifelong friends are people you do not have to pretend around. You know each other and accept the one another, flaws and all. You are your uncensored self around them and you do not feel apologetic for being you and showing it.

Don’t have to keep in constant contact

You don’t have to keep in constant contact or company with each other to validate your friendship. A friend that will last is one that you don’t have to talk to everyday, but when you talk, it’s as if you haven’t missed a beat. Distance does little harm to your friendship.

You trust each other

Trust is essential in every relationship that hopes to last. A lasting friend is one who you can count on and in whom you can trust with personal issues. They are the type of people who you don’t have to worry about your secrets getting out.

You respect each others space

Lasting friends allow you to do you. They don’t hog you or smother you. They respect your space and want their space to be respected in return. Giving each other times to breathe and be individuals is a factor that will favor a friendship to old age.

You miss them when they are gone

You value them and enjoy the time you spend, meaning their absence is felt and you actually miss them when they are not around you. This doesn’t mean you sulk around or feel down when they are gone, but you simply miss them.

You cheer each other up

True friends have a way of reaching into your sorrow, sharing it, and cheering you up when you are feeling low. They make an effort to cry with you, comfort you, make you laugh, anything to ensure that you are both happy.

You keep plans

When you plan to meet up, you meet up. You don’t bail on each other unless it’s really important, and this is because you enjoy the time you spend together. You actually look forward to your plans, and so you make them happen.

You are loyal to one another

 Real friends are loyal. Loyalty is often mistaken for not being allowed to have other friends. That is obviously not accurate; Loyalty is the act of not discrediting or betraying something or someone you care about. What this means in a friendship is that you don’t gossip about each other and you don’t betray one another in any way.

 

You are not possessive of one another

 A lasting relationship is a mature relationship, and mature relationship respects that a person is a person and not a possession. It is usual for people to feel a sense of ‘ownership’ or ‘role’ in a persons life as the best friend, but this should not manifest into toxic behavior like possessiveness.  Respecting each others space means friends are free to have other friends, without your role in their life being threatened.

You don’t (or hardly) gossip

You and your friend have enough fun together to not find the need to fill the space with the drama happening around you. You might occasionally gossip, but it is not the foundation of your relationship. In most cases, gossiping is what people do when they don’t have anything left to say. A lasting friendship is one that you can find conversation easily and embrace silence comfortably. 

Notes

If you see the above factors in your friendship, you are blessed with a friendship that will likely last. This does not expel arguments or promise a journey with no obstacles, but it does let you know you have a friendship worth keeping.


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