How to Have a Healthy Argument

Arguments are inevitable; humans have different opinions and they do not always agree. If not controlled, those arguments have the potential to turn into conflict or tension.Whether it is with a spouse, friend or with co-workers, the best way to prevent sour disagreements is to argue in a healthy way by following the guideline below:

Listen

Arguments probably last 90% longer because people don’t actually listen to what the other person is saying. They often hear a line they do not agree with or part of a paragraph, before responding based on the small fragments of what the other person is saying, instead of hearing out the whole point. Listening does not mean agreeing, but argument would not be as long, and would be more productive if people got into the habit of fully listening before responding.

Raise your tone, not your voice

An argument reaches a whole other level when people start yelling. It becomes a savage fight capable of becoming anything. The best way to avoid the unnecessary dramatics and consequences would be to raise your tone instead of your voice. This should be done in caution because raising your tone has the ability to escalate to raising your voice. Next time you argue and you feel tempted to shout, raise and adjust your tone instead.

Try to understand

Whether you agree or not, allow yourself to understand the other person’s point of view. Most people cause for is trying to make the other person understand their point of view. People often say, “You just don’t get what I'm saying” or “Your misunderstanding me” while arguing. Taking the step trying to understand will allow you to speak with more sense and knowledge, as well as shorten the argument.

Don’t be afraid to disagree

You do not have to assume a position you don’t believe just to end an argument; doing that will only postpone the argument instead of ending it.  This is because over time, the issue will get under your skin once again, and the argument will take place again. Let it be known how you feel and deal with it promptly.

Don’t be afraid to agree

Sometimes in an argument, a person will realize they are actually wrong, but due to pride they will still continue to defend the pint they no longer believe in. Letting go of unnecessary pride and genuinely changing your mind, or seeing sense in what the other person is saying, is not something that you should resist.

Don’t insult the other person

Whether you feel you are losing the discussion or irritated by someone’s opinion, do not ever insult the person. By this I mean swearing, hurtful words and 'disses'. This is what makes couples break-up over arguments, friends to stop speaking to each other and other avoidable tension. Insulting someone during an argument makes it personal and hurtful. Things like “Why are you always so…this or that” or “As the smarter person, I think that…such-and-such”. Keep focused on the subject of the argument to avoid personal conflicts.

Don’t be afraid to agree to Disagree

Arguments don’t have to have a happy ending where someone finally agrees with you. Agreeing to disagree is not a crime; it shows that you respect each other enough to not force the other person to think the way you think. Instead of prolonging the disagreement, accept it for what it is and agree to disagree.

Notes

Arguing does not have to be a toxic, personal mess. It is highly possible to have a healthy argument that won’t result in hurt feelings or suppressed opinions. It is a trait of strong relationships and a trait that everyone should adapt. Half of the worlds' problems (if not all) would be solved if we could make our arguments healthy. You may want you read 5 Things You Should Never Do When Arguing With Your Partner for a better idea and more help.


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