7 Signs the Friendship is Fading

We meet many people on the journey of life. Most stay strangers, others become mentors, some are colleagues and a chosen few become friends. Friendships are to be cherished, but not all friendships are destined to last forever. You may get a friend for life ( I wrote about the 10 signs Your Friendship will last>>), but sometimes your friends stop being friends and gradually become strangers with memories. Their role in your life stops existing and you just don’t talk anymore. You find yourself wondering how you came to be friends from the get go.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that they are horrible people all of a sudden, it might simply be that their purpose in your life is over and latching on to them despite this may hurt your personal growth. So are you outgrowing your friends? Have you ceased to be a friend to a friend? These 7 signs will help you answer those questions.

 Don’t have anything to talk about

You and your friend have started living in worlds that can no longer collide, which makes looking for common ground is not as easy as it used to be. This makes conversation a task instead of coming naturally. Because you do not see eye to eye anymore, you find yourself stuck on what to say.

The silence is awkward

You no longer have much to say to one another, knowing this makes the silence awkward. You do not feel comfortable and you feel you would be happier elsewhere. The silence reminds you of this and it makes the energy between you tense and uncomfortable.

You do not feel their absence

Your friends’ presence does not carry the same weight and joy as it used to, they are becoming irrelevant in your life and this makes their absence forgettable. When they leave a room or don’t talk to you for a long time, you might notice it but it does not bother you and you don’t actually miss them anymore.

You start avoiding them

Being with each other reminds you of the friendship that is fading or no longer there. This makes you avoid this friend; you don’t want to be around the awkward silence and the empty conversation. It does not mean you hate them or even dislike them, it just means you value your time and do not want to spend it with someone who you don't feel happy around.

You don’t keep plans

This may be because you are busy avoiding your friend or you are both avoiding each other, it may also be because you have become forgettable in each others lives. You no longer bring value or joy to each other so you find yourself always forgetting plans, making excuses or choosing others over one another.

You are not as interested about their lives

You and your friend(s) are not as relevant in each other lives and you find your interest for them dwindling gradually. You do not find them relatable anymore, so the going-ons in their lives is not so important to you.

You don’t laugh anymore

Laughter is a sign or joy, comfortability and a good time. Some people are only comfortable laughing around people that they are close to or know them well. Your friend not being much of a friend partially puts them in the Stranger Zone and this means you won't be as free around them, thus not laugh much with them. There won’t be anything to really laugh about. You aren’t as comfortable and open to them and this makes it hard to induce humor into the relationship.

Last notes

If you have two or more of the above signals in your friendship, it most probably means your friendship is fading. You can choose to troubleshoot you issues or let it go all together (You may want you read How to Move on From Former Friends). It is not a crime, it is nature and time might have another season for you two in the far future. 


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